I have only heard so far about ” I got this smile from my Mamma!’, everyone gets it from mamma though, generally. But what I have felt in last few days is I also got this from my mamma to make my people smile with simple and thoughtful gestures so effortlessly, that it occurs to me that smile is the most priceless thing you can gift people you love. And it is only these simple moments that you are present is what makes life magical and worth living.
But this act of spreading smiles doesn’t come as easy if one is not happy and content with the life he’s living in. Now that’s a cliche for sure, when I say content I do not mean put aside your ambitions and expectations and stay in ‘Nirvana’ no matter what goes around. But rather embrace the chaos around, self assure that everything will pass by and you will emerge as a survivor (Winner is too much of performance pressure!) Once you are used to that pattern of living, nothing can make you reactive to anything and everything. Because being reactive is whole some drain of energy, physical and mental, personally I feel it only arises out of expectations and entitlements! Again when you put this question to yourself am I expecting too much, chances are you might answer yes to yourself 80% of the times, but problem ain’t that, problem is you wanting expectations to be fulfilled all 80% of the time ! So in living that process , our reactive nature dominates us while acceptance nature till searching for its resonating frequency inside us.
Now if you are still at this length of the piece , I am sure you are looking for what to do once you are caught up in the so called paranoia. Sharing with you what works for me and try it out yourself too, let me know if it works. I will try to file a patent!!
Anyways, three tactics those work for me are ,
- Check if you WANT the thing or you want it SHOULD happen to you! – You will clearly know if you want it that bad or you are just falling to entitlement of it should definitely happen to you.
- Confide in someone who knows you in and out and will show you what you SHOULD see and not what you are WANTING to see – I think most of us have lived this quite many times and acknowledged the fact that Yes , maybe I was being too demanding and lost myself in the process! So yea, one more chance to call up your buddy and load him with all that madness in your head.
- Stay in present as much as possible, for it is our mind that ideally creates every mess in our head first and then you see it unfold right infront of you, believing what happened is what you expected. It works the other way round often, what you expect is what happens to you.
My mom has taught me one thing for sure, people come and go, situations change and so do your statuses, what remains constant is how privileged you feel in every phase of your life and I think that is what is practicing gratitude all about. When you keep a reality check from what you were to where you are today you will definitely have all the courage, wisdom and of course smile to walk to where you want to be!
Waiting for your thoughts too!